“So What Are You Doing With Your Life?” Every 20 Something’s Favorite Question…

Can everyone just pause for 10 seconds and think about how many times you’ve been asked this rather you are 20 something, 30 something, 40, 50, 60, etc. It is everyone’s favorite question and when I figure out why I’ll write a post on that but for now…

So every time this question comes up I get a little topsy-turvy inside. My brain goes into overdrive trying to think of what answer I should give to the question, then I go into a momentary cringe when I think about the bazillion decisions and choices I am facing/will be facing in the coming months and year.

IT IS OVERWHELMING….Can I get an Amen?

But you see I’m going to let you in on a little secret… it is okay not to know. It’s okay to be indecisive. It’s okay to want to weigh all your options. It’s okay want to try new things, places, and experiences. It’s okay to get a job, it’s okay further your education, it’s okay to pursue dreams you’ve had for years that you pushed to the “I’ll do this when I’m ______” pile.

Jesus tells us in Ecclesiastes 3 “For everything there is a season” …

A time to plant your roots in a place you desire to call home, and a time to uproot to somewhere you never dreamed you would go.

A time to kill old habits, and a time to heal the wounds they left behind.

A time to tear down walls of fear, doubt, and discouragement, and a time to build new ones of confidence, peace, joy, and hope.

A time to weep (this is definitely one of those times so just let the tears flow…I promise you’ll feel better after), and a time to laugh; laugh with friends, laugh at the silly things you cried over, laugh at your mistakes and learn from them.

A time to scatter stones, stones of all the things that are holding you back from deepening your relationship with Jesus, your relationships, and yourself (pride, shame, discontentment, crippling sin). And there is a time to gather them, gather stones of perseverance, stones of grace and patience (for yourself and others).

A time to search for open doors and let God guide you down paths that will bring honor to His Kingdom, and a time to give up…when He closes one door it’s because He has a better one He is waiting for you to knock on.

A time to keep and mend, hang tight to the relationships that God has provided you to equip you on your journey. People who build you up, encourage you, and push you further. And a time to tear and throw away the people in your life who tear you down…(this one is not literal people, but you get the idea).

A time to be silent…this one is important and one of the hardest areas that I’m trying to work on, but it is so important to learn to listen. And by listen I don’t mean all the pointless advice that everyone seems to have for you, but to lend an ear to listen to people. Listen to the heart, listen to their struggles, their dreams, their goals. Because sometimes people don’t need advice they just need someone to listen to. (This was great advice from one of my college roommates who always told me straight up when I was talking too much and not just listening 😉 )With that there is a time to speak, but we must choose our words wisely for those who speech is gracious will have kings as friends (Proverbs 22:11).

Friends we all go through seasons ofuncertainty and as long as we live on this earth that will always be the case. But here is what is great, this world is not our home. And because of Jesus we can forever have the certainty that one day our season will be sitting at His right hand for ETERNITY.

The question is inevitable, but your response is what you must stay true to. You do not owe people an explanation for your uncertainties. Embrace the season of not knowing a embrace the journey as everything falls into place.

Hang tight in this season of uncertainty because there is hope, His name is Jesus.



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